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Selfie Sunday, Aug. 18: Body Insecurity and Weight Gain, Meet Style.

Body insecurity is something, like many other people, I have struggled with in varying amounts over the course of my life. (Yep, we’re gettin’ real today, folks.) When I was in my senior year of high school, my body confidence was probably at its all time high (for that far in my life). My waist was small, my chest was filling out, and my body was toned from martial arts practice. I felt confident in pretty much anything I wore and was physically comfortable wearing.

Everything sort of filled out in college. My shoulders and hips and waist got wider, even under the usual walking to class and eating less in the warmer months of the year. (People often eat more in the winter, hence why I was “eating less” in the summer to early autumn.) It was discouraging when I would try on clothes that I loved and they no longer fit. There were days where all I could think about was my fear of continuously gaining weight. Spoiler alert: I didn’t continuously gain weight.

Weight gain in your late teens and early twenties has a lot more to do with less exercise or that high calorie dining hall food. Birth control, mental health struggles, eating too little (screwing up your metabolism), and genetics can all contribute to weight gain. Even then, a little weight gain doesn’t mean it’s bad. What’s far more important is having healthy habits.

But the weight gain does mean my body changed shape. And that can be a difficult adjustment in a world where the beauty industry doesn’t articulate that body shapes and sizes change have different highlights at every stage of life. Those highlights, regardless of trends or body messaging, will always be beautiful.

What I love about clothing, fashion, style, etc. is that we can use it to celebrate what we love about ourselves. Our clothes give us the power to highlight those legs you worked hard in the gym for or that butt that your mama gave you. Our clothes can help us feel sexy or powerful or ethereal. Personal style gives us the opportunity to celebrate in place of conforming.

Thank you so so much for stopping by and giving my blog a read! Leave a comment or send me a message. I would love to chat with you! 🙂

❤ Zeebs

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Selfie Sunday, Aug. 11: OOTD – Mixing Metallics

Hello hello! Today is another outfit of the day. The theme: don’t be afraid to mix metallics! Remember: all metallics are neutrals, so you can mix them however you want! I love pairing my gold clutch/wristlet with my bronze colored flats. I added a rose gold watch with a gold bangle, and metallic earrings to add more metallic fun! since I wanted to focus on the metallic mixing, I kept the top and skirt neutral. Though, if you take a close look, you’ll see the buttons on my skirt are also metallic! The white blouse has a bow which adds a little interest without trying to be the star of the show!

Thanks for stopping by! Feel free to leave a comment, like, or send me outfit inspiration!

❤ Zeebs

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Selfie Sunday, Aug. 4: New Booties!

Say hello to the new booties in my closet! With a 2.5 inch block heel and made by Dr. Scholl’s, these booties are stylish and comfortable! I ordered mine in a size 7. I always size a half size down when ordering heels, as I like a slightly tighter fit. I’m sure it would have fit if I ordered a 7.5.

Screenshot from DSW. (Link at bottom of post.)

The color is only slightly darker in real life than on the website. The lighting in my photo made the shoes appear slightly darker on camera. I love that the front of this bootie is lower in the front than in the back. Being petite, one of the last things I want to do is cut off my ankle or shorten the appearance of my legs. These allow your ankles to be seen while still enjoying the look of a bootie! This stone color provides an interesting neutral to mix among fellow neutrals and fun colors. I went for the faux crocodile texture to add more interest, as is right on trend for this summer and fall. These shoes also come in a leopard print and in black if this color/texture isn’t quite your style!

I am soooooo looinkg forward to showing you how I style these in the future! Right now, it’s a little too hot to wear jeans or jackets, so I’ll be revealing some outfit inspiration when the weather cools down some!

❤ Zeebs

Link: https://www.dsw.com/en/us/product/dr.-scholls-all-my-life-bootie/468882?activeColor=021

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Selfie Sunday, Jul 28: Clothes Reflect You

Clothes reflect who you are – for better or for worse. While some people think this is unfair (and sometimes it can be), it’s often proven to be true. Wearing a suit can give an air of professionalism, refinement, or even sloppy. It depends on how you wear it. A pink suit can say femininity and polished. A suit that is multiple sizes too big or small will give the impression that you don’t know your size and aren’t as put together as if the suit were the proper size and tailored. 

The beauty of clothes is that it provides an opportunity to express your personality to the world and invite them. People make judgments, which means your clothes can lead people to make positive judgments about you.  Don’t ignore aspects of your personality, as it can be reflected in how you wear clothes. If you are a tomboy, a ruffled floral dress may not be you. If you wear it and feel that it doesn’t represent you – it will show!

To me, it’s important that I express as many facets to my personality and my emotions as possible. An idea on achieving a wardrobe which portrays you is to make a list of adjectives to describe you. Then, go through your closet and match clothing and accessories to those adjectives. Your denim jacket can say casual if covered in patches or feminine and delicate if it features crochet or lace detailing. Your favorite leopard print pump can speak to an outgoing, bold, or aggressive aspect of your persona. Mixing pieces with different vibes that speak to you will create a dynamic and stylish outfit.

That’s my little PSA for the day! Thanks for swinging by!

❤ Zeebs

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Selfie Sunday, Jul 21: Bra Power

Alright, ladies! Today we’re discussing a tool close to our hearts – literally! Bras are a powerful wardrobe tool. I should start by saying bras are not a requirement. If you really don’t want to wear a bra, then don’t! Feeling comfortable in your own skin is more important. That being said, bras do serve a purpose. One, if you have larger breasts, they offer support. Two, some garments are meant to be worn with bras; it won’t look the same if you aren’t wearing one. Three, if it’s sheer, it can become inappropriate to wear with no bra. Four, bras can change your proportion. Raising the girls up can reveal how small your waist is and lengthen your proportion making you look longer and leaner overall. Five, it can make you feel and look a little extra sexy!

Unfortunately, most women wear the wrong size bra and do not care for them properly. When we don’t take care of clothes or wear the wrong size, we can shrink the lifespan of our bras. And who wants that? Bras are expensive enough as is!

But let’s be real: bras, just like blouses or pants, are an investment. You will get what you pay for and how we treat them. When in the middle of puberty and you’re body is changing more than at other times in your life, it makes sense to buy less expensive bras… you won’t (or weren’t) wear them that long. Bras should be hand washed (or with a garment bag for the wash) and air dried. If you do machine wash…still air dry!!!

Sizing: sizing is important! Most women wear the wrong size. The wrong size often means not being comfortable. It’s recommended that you go and get fitted for a bra at least once per year and to have at least two or three bras in your current size. If you gain or lose even as little as five pounds, your bra size can change! 

An important note: the letter in your bra size does NOT equal how big or small your breasts are. It’s a common misconception. The letter indicates how many inches larger around your breasts are from your rib cage where the bra band sits. An “A” means a one inch difference. A “B” means a two inch difference, and so on. 

For a substantial amount of time in high school, I thought that because I was petite that my breasts were always going to be small and in an A cup. Come my senior year, I grew out of my bra. I couldn’t wait to get out of my bra at the end of the day, and I would have red marks where my bra sat. My breasts were spilling out. I needed a bra fitting…

So I went to Dillard’s (a department store for those who aren’t familiar) to get my first professional bra fitting. Before the session, I was wearing a 32A. Post bra fitting, I was wearing a 30D! I was wearing both the wrong band size and cup size, making me feel uncomfortable everyday. Trying on the new bras, I never knew they could be so comfy. I felt so great, I SKIPPED out of the store and could not stop smiling. I have made sure to keep getting bra fittings when necessary, which keeps me supported and comfortable!

Bra Recap:

  • Get sized professionally at least once per year. 
  • Letter does NOT equal size. Letter means proportion compared to your band size. 
  • A change in as little as 5 to 10 lbs. Can alter your bra size. 
  • Have at least three bras to rotate. This gives your bras time to relax and take a break. 
  • Hand washing bras strongly recommended (but I know that not everyone has the time to hand wash their bras). 
  • Air dry!

❤ Zeebs

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Selfie Sunday, Jul 14: The French Tuck

Season Four of Queer Eye is right around the corner. In the spirit of Tan France, I’m dedicating this post to the ever-powerful “french tuck.”

I’ve done the french tuck long before I knew that was the name. (Did I feel cool when Tan did it on Queer Eye? Why yes, yes I did…) The french tuck is especially useful when wearing billowy blouses. Tucking in the front of the shirt shows more of your legs. The longer your legs looks proportionally, the taller you look – which is why it’s one of my favorite tricks being a petite person. 

Tucking in all of the blouse risks a lumpy look from underneath the fabric of your bottoms. And we can’t have that, can we? By not tucking in the entire shirt, however, you can still have some of that free flowing feel of your blouse. When I’m wearing a t-shirt instead of a blouse (see below), I’ll roll the end of the shirt up underneath itself. This creates a bit of a bubble effect. I find this extra useful if I’m going to go out to eat. As my stomach expands from all that free bread, the bubbling of the shirt gives the illusion that the wideness is only from the shirt. Mission conceal food baby: complete. 

The french tuck can also set up a frame for a statement belt. I currently don’t have a statement belt I love or I would have included a style example. (If you know a great statement belt, leave a comment or shoot me an email!) Even a basic belt is a good edition to the french tuck. The belt is a horizontal line, something we usually don’t like to have around our midsection for fear of highlighting width. However, as you may have noticed in my picture earlier, the non-tucked portions of my shirt hang over where the belt would be. This leaves a small section of that horizontal line visible. When eyes look to it, it gives the illusion that the belt (and therefore your waist) is shorter. 

See you Friday!

❤ Zeebs

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Selfie Sunday, Jul 7: Outfits of the Day – Using Color

The first outfit is has a funky and casual feel. This patterned top is full of vibrant color. I adore the three quarter length sleeves. They can help create a feeling of femininity with more coverage than a t-shirt. I would wear this out for a fun casual event like a barbecue, karaoke, or a diner dinner. It can work as a shopping outfit. The sleeves can provide that perfect amount of additional warmth from powerful air conditioning during the heat of the day. The skirt is a simple a-line, easily removable in the dressing room and has some stretch to accommodate lunch! :p

The second has a more toned-down air to it. The neutral navy shorts and black base color of the blouse, the focus of the outfit is the beautiful color play in the blouse. I love the blush pink, mustard yellow, white, and red together. The sleeves are elastic at the ends, which allows me to control the exact length of the sleeves – so important, being petite like me!! Pushing the elastic up, the blouse subtly incorporates the trend of sleeve volume. The navy shorts are a little longer than short shorts of past years (Thank goodness! I don’t like feeling like I’m spilling out all day.). They keep the modest/class factor while the outfit remains casual and breathable in the hot summer weather!

The third and last is a business casual, brunch worthy ensemble. The bold yellow (a trend this summer) lace top and turquoise trousers make bold statement. I actually wore this when I studied abroad. With grey suede heels and lace top, texture is also at play in this outfit. The grey allows the pants and shirt to shine. Bold and elegant!

I hope you enjoyed today’s post and these outfits served as inspiration for you! Happy first ever Selfie Sunday! ❤ Zeebs