Selfie Sundays

Selfie Sunday, Aug. 18: Body Insecurity and Weight Gain, Meet Style.

Body insecurity is something, like many other people, I have struggled with in varying amounts over the course of my life. (Yep, we’re gettin’ real today, folks.) When I was in my senior year of high school, my body confidence was probably at its all time high (for that far in my life). My waist was small, my chest was filling out, and my body was toned from martial arts practice. I felt confident in pretty much anything I wore and was physically comfortable wearing.

Everything sort of filled out in college. My shoulders and hips and waist got wider, even under the usual walking to class and eating less in the warmer months of the year. (People often eat more in the winter, hence why I was “eating less” in the summer to early autumn.) It was discouraging when I would try on clothes that I loved and they no longer fit. There were days where all I could think about was my fear of continuously gaining weight. Spoiler alert: I didn’t continuously gain weight.

Weight gain in your late teens and early twenties has a lot more to do with less exercise or that high calorie dining hall food. Birth control, mental health struggles, eating too little (screwing up your metabolism), and genetics can all contribute to weight gain. Even then, a little weight gain doesn’t mean it’s bad. What’s far more important is having healthy habits.

But the weight gain does mean my body changed shape. And that can be a difficult adjustment in a world where the beauty industry doesn’t articulate that body shapes and sizes change have different highlights at every stage of life. Those highlights, regardless of trends or body messaging, will always be beautiful.

What I love about clothing, fashion, style, etc. is that we can use it to celebrate what we love about ourselves. Our clothes give us the power to highlight those legs you worked hard in the gym for or that butt that your mama gave you. Our clothes can help us feel sexy or powerful or ethereal. Personal style gives us the opportunity to celebrate in place of conforming.

Thank you so so much for stopping by and giving my blog a read! Leave a comment or send me a message. I would love to chat with you! 🙂

❤ Zeebs

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Fashion Friday, Aug. 16: A “Basic” You Don’t Need – The Button Down Shirt

I don’t know who started the idea that a white button down shirt is a closet essential, but I’m here to tell you that under no circumstances is is necessary in a wardrobe.

When I started to get more into clothes, I watched “closet essential” videos on YouTube to learn what basic are important and must haves in a wardrobe, especially if you want to build your closet from the ground up. So many channels swore by the white button down as a key piece in any outfit aiming for a sense of professionalism or sophistication. And they aren’t wrong: a white button down can be used to add a flair of class.

That DOESN’T mean it’s necessary. In fact, for some people (like myself) its best to avoid them all together. I am a more busty and curvaceous person, which I have embraced. What I didn’t know a few years ago is that when you are curvier, some pieces of clothing in outlet stores will not be your friend. This includes the button front shirt. In a world when going up in size can be a source of shame or embarrassment (which is thankfully changing), button front shirts can be a menace. Unless cut to accommodate a bust, button front shirts will often pucker and distort around the center buttons instead of the fabric itself stretching. This means if you are bustier and a shirt fits you in the waist, it’s likely that the shirt will be stretching around the girls. To get a shirt to fit your chest, you may have to go up multiple sizes. If you struggle with body image, seeing those size numbers go up might be more demoralizing than that shirt is worth.

By no means am I saying if you are busty you can’t wear a button down shirt. You can! However, it is extremely important to remember that the number on the tag is arbitrary, and buying a larger size to accommodate your breasts and then going to a tailor to make the garment fit properly all around is probably your best bet.

Any white blouse can serve as a great alternative! My favorite white blouse is one that you saw in my most recent OOTD post. (Check it out!) Being sleeveless, blousy, and featuring a bow accent, I don’t have to worry about feeling restricted or looking unprofessional. The blousing (often not in a white button down) hides any excess tummy I might have that day or feel self-conscious about (We all have those days.). The v-neck helps to elongate the body with a sense of verticality, and the bow adds a classy, feminine detail! I feel oodles more confident in this top than I ever had in a button front shirt.

Thanks for swinging by and giving a read!

❤ Zeebs

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Fashion Friday, Aug. 9: Business Casual OOTD

Summer is hot, but business casual environments requires more coverage. A balanced summer business casual outfit requires some effort to not bake in the sun and not freeze in the office.

I am in love with these wide leg trousers! With a paperbag waist and light fabric, the pants flow without drowning my petite frame – and are trendy this year! Wide leg trousers are a great option in summer because they allow for more ventilation.

With a wider trouser, I always go with a more fitted top to keep a polished look. In this case, I went with classic shape top with ruffled sleeves and polka dots (a trend this summer) to add energy and lightness! The fabric is nice and breathable, and the sleeves don’t rebel when you add a cardigan to protect yourself against the overly powerful air conditioning.

I paired this outfit with my bright suede pumps to add a pop of color. The modern color in this more classic shape help the outfit to remain both fun and professional. I topped it off with a delicate necklace with various colored beads for more color with being more understated. The outfit overall is more fun than a white button down shirt and trousers, but still follows the norms of business casual.

The blouse and pant combo can carry into cooler weather with a cropped cardigan and an ankle bootie. I wore this blouse/pant combination to a town meeting with a neutral sweater and metallic ballet flat. I’ll for sure be still rocking these wide leg pants in the late autumn and winter with leggings underneath for additional warmth.

As always, leave a comment, a like, or shoot me a message with feedback! I also would welcome any outfit inspiration!

❤ Zeebs

Selfie Sundays

Selfie Sunday, Aug. 4: New Booties!

Say hello to the new booties in my closet! With a 2.5 inch block heel and made by Dr. Scholl’s, these booties are stylish and comfortable! I ordered mine in a size 7. I always size a half size down when ordering heels, as I like a slightly tighter fit. I’m sure it would have fit if I ordered a 7.5.

Screenshot from DSW. (Link at bottom of post.)

The color is only slightly darker in real life than on the website. The lighting in my photo made the shoes appear slightly darker on camera. I love that the front of this bootie is lower in the front than in the back. Being petite, one of the last things I want to do is cut off my ankle or shorten the appearance of my legs. These allow your ankles to be seen while still enjoying the look of a bootie! This stone color provides an interesting neutral to mix among fellow neutrals and fun colors. I went for the faux crocodile texture to add more interest, as is right on trend for this summer and fall. These shoes also come in a leopard print and in black if this color/texture isn’t quite your style!

I am soooooo looinkg forward to showing you how I style these in the future! Right now, it’s a little too hot to wear jeans or jackets, so I’ll be revealing some outfit inspiration when the weather cools down some!

❤ Zeebs

Link: https://www.dsw.com/en/us/product/dr.-scholls-all-my-life-bootie/468882?activeColor=021

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Fashion Friday, Aug. 2: Shine

It’s the post you’ve been waiting for… shine! Shine is such a fun way to add dimension. Materials that catch the light are always a great way to draw the eyes. Metallics are also considered neutrals, meaning mixing different metals is both okay and encouraged for a sense of modernity. The earrings (below) I got from Marshall’s not too long ago has gold, rose, gold, and silver. I adore these statement earrings, especially when they catch the light!

Shine doesn’t have to be super shiny or sparkly. Studding and embellishment can add a subtle element of shine. My pale pink loafers (below) have faux pearls and studding which add dimension without drawing drastic amount of attention to them. If I’m wearing a loud top or jacket, a shoe like this that adds some interest without competing is a huge plus!

But shine doesn’t have to be limited to accessories! There are metallic treatments that are put on tops and bottoms to add some sheen. The top pictured below I tried on at Marshall’s. I would’ve modeled it for you. Unfortunately, it didn’t fit properly, nor did I have pants on. (I wore a dress to the store and had no pants in the dressing room that fit. C’est la vie.) This blog does not provide that kind of show! If it had fit, I certainly would’ve snagged this top! It’s a great example of mixing shine and texture!

Thank you so so much for stopping by! I hope this examples of using shine can provide some wardrobe inspiration for you! Feel free to leave a comment or shoot me a message – I love feedback!

❤ Zeebs

Selfie Sundays

Selfie Sunday, Jul 28: Clothes Reflect You

Clothes reflect who you are – for better or for worse. While some people think this is unfair (and sometimes it can be), it’s often proven to be true. Wearing a suit can give an air of professionalism, refinement, or even sloppy. It depends on how you wear it. A pink suit can say femininity and polished. A suit that is multiple sizes too big or small will give the impression that you don’t know your size and aren’t as put together as if the suit were the proper size and tailored. 

The beauty of clothes is that it provides an opportunity to express your personality to the world and invite them. People make judgments, which means your clothes can lead people to make positive judgments about you.  Don’t ignore aspects of your personality, as it can be reflected in how you wear clothes. If you are a tomboy, a ruffled floral dress may not be you. If you wear it and feel that it doesn’t represent you – it will show!

To me, it’s important that I express as many facets to my personality and my emotions as possible. An idea on achieving a wardrobe which portrays you is to make a list of adjectives to describe you. Then, go through your closet and match clothing and accessories to those adjectives. Your denim jacket can say casual if covered in patches or feminine and delicate if it features crochet or lace detailing. Your favorite leopard print pump can speak to an outgoing, bold, or aggressive aspect of your persona. Mixing pieces with different vibes that speak to you will create a dynamic and stylish outfit.

That’s my little PSA for the day! Thanks for swinging by!

❤ Zeebs

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Fashion Friday, Jul 26: A “Basic” You Don’t Need: the LBD

Yep, I said it. The essential little black dress isn’t essential at all! 

The premise of the little black dress is/was a piece of clothing that is versatile. It could carry you from an interview or the office to date night to lunch with the girls to a shopping spree. The fact is, that item of clothing does not need to be a dress or black. 

Not everyone is a dress person, and on a windy day a dress may not be the smartest idea. A romper, coordinated set, or jumpsuit can work just as well! My black romper can work for a house party with my black high top converse or a statement necklace for a date/night out. If there’s a breeze, I don’t need to worry about flashing anyone!

Part of the appeal of the little black dress is that black has the reputation of a slimming color. Be prepared to be stunned: black being slimming is a myth. The color of the garment is far less important than the fit. A black trash bag won’t look a tenth as good as a pale of white dress in a shape which flatters your frame. One of my favorite dresses ever is my knee length white lace dress. I can pair it with a blazer for a presentation, a heel and statement earrings for a date, or a denim jacket and flats or converse for a casual day. The picture above I styled by beloved dress with turquoise heels and a big hat, great for a summer day!

As always, send me inspiration, gift my with a like, or give me some feedback!

❤ Zeebs