Body insecurity is something, like many other people, I have struggled with in varying amounts over the course of my life. (Yep, we’re gettin’ real today, folks.) When I was in my senior year of high school, my body confidence was probably at its all time high (for that far in my life). My waist was small, my chest was filling out, and my body was toned from martial arts practice. I felt confident in pretty much anything I wore and was physically comfortable wearing.
Everything sort of filled out in college. My shoulders and hips and waist got wider, even under the usual walking to class and eating less in the warmer months of the year. (People often eat more in the winter, hence why I was “eating less” in the summer to early autumn.) It was discouraging when I would try on clothes that I loved and they no longer fit. There were days where all I could think about was my fear of continuously gaining weight. Spoiler alert: I didn’t continuously gain weight.
Weight gain in your late teens and early twenties has a lot more to do with less exercise or that high calorie dining hall food. Birth control, mental health struggles, eating too little (screwing up your metabolism), and genetics can all contribute to weight gain. Even then, a little weight gain doesn’t mean it’s bad. What’s far more important is having healthy habits.
But the weight gain does mean my body changed shape. And that can be a difficult adjustment in a world where the beauty industry doesn’t articulate that body shapes and sizes change have different highlights at every stage of life. Those highlights, regardless of trends or body messaging, will always be beautiful.
What I love about clothing, fashion, style, etc. is that we can use it to celebrate what we love about ourselves. Our clothes give us the power to highlight those legs you worked hard in the gym for or that butt that your mama gave you. Our clothes can help us feel sexy or powerful or ethereal. Personal style gives us the opportunity to celebrate in place of conforming.
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